At explorefaith.org I found this nugget of wisdom:
Hypocrisy is grime that covers the purity and transparency of love. The one thing in life that should be absolutely and consistently pure is love. It is the one thing that the human heart longs for, and yet it is also the thing that is just as consistently covered up by old dust.
The dust of needing to be important ourselves rather than liberally giving love away to others. The old dust of needing to have people conform to our standards before we grant them love; the old dust of wanting reciprocity before we share love; the old dust of memories that keep us from loving with trust; the old dust of pretending to love as a social grace while holding ourselves far from the radical requirements of pure love.