Am I the only one who’s never heard of this??? Seriously, why was this not big news at the time? Scrolling through the message boards on the topic of “hysterectomy and sexuality” and it’s incumbent problems this morning, I found this and this. I was stunned. Really. I am by no means ignorant of these things, but even I couldn’t believe I’d never heard of it. With all the hype and hoopla over solving men’s erection problems with Viagra, Cialis, and every other drug shoved down our throats on television (pun intended), NOTHING is said in the news or on TV about curing women of sexual dysfunction using physical means. We don’t even have a pill for Goddess’ sake (or maybe I don’t know about that either). It IS after all only in our heads. Yet, here is a device, acknowledged by the medical industry and approved by the FDA in 2000!!! What, you mean you didn’t ever hear about it? I know I haven’t ever heard about it. What, you mean insurance doesn’t even acknowledge it exists???? Probably not. Well, imagine that!
We’ve all known for some time now that men’s sexual function is FAR more important to the world than women’s sexual function, but the existence of this device, approved by the government years ago no less, is ultimate proof that the less women know about their own sexual health and happiness, the happier some men will be. Patriarchally motivated men and women want women to associate ALL of their sexual pleasure with men and men are harmed by this just as much as women are. After all, women’s sexuality is exclusively for men’s consumption and manipulation AND only for the sole purpose of reproduction. So in spite of patriarchy’s droning on and on about the dignity of humans, they are merely reducing men and women to biological function once again. We are breeders used to fill up church membership or to shore up the capitalist machine. Pleasure is not an issue for them. Or maybe it’s the only issue they fear.
My view is that we are all individuals first. We are not born with our “parts” called for like an auction or “saved” for a future spouse (assumes and privileges marriage). Our “parts” if you will are what constitutes our very selves and as such are no one’s property or business, unless we choose them to be. This concept of “you are not your own” is the worst consequence of the soul/body duality perpetuated by religions and patriarchal cultures devoted to land and body ownership model (i.e. women, children, cattle, property). Unfortunately, the medical industry is also complicit in this. Men are all fired up to “reclaim” their own penises, but are not willing to extend the same privilege to women. Oh, no!
If men spent even HALF of their time helping or encouraging women to become sexually aware, healthy, and happy as they do focused on their own penises and trans-continental cock-fighting, perhaps this world would be a much more peaceful place to live in. In the meantime, it’s up to women to provide for our own sexual health, education, and practice. And I mean to practice a lot! Since my reproductive parts are no longer there, I am useless to the patriarchy and an embarrassment to good church-going folks. You see, after many years of worry and fretting over how to please a man, I can honestly say that “I AM my own” and I have nothing to lose by exploring my sexuality to the fullest. In fact, I have only well-being to gain (and a special place in hell according to some Christians). Ahh. Life is good, isn’t it?
And if you think we’ve all “moved beyond” this, think again.