My husband cannot say no to anyone, unless it’s me that’s asking. Despite knowing my pain, despite knowing that I feel like I’m waiting for the axe to fall, despite feeling unwanted and not properly loved, he refuses to give up being what OTHERS want him to be. And what is that? They want him to be a show for their fetishes. He is an entertainer first and last. He gets high on being on show for any and all comers. He’s never refused a gig; musical or sexual.
It does not matter that I believe it demeans him or that I lose respect for him. He doesn’t care. It’s like he WANTS to be debased. Is there some deep-seated need to be humiliated? Some people are into that. Having been humiliated without my consent I cannot imagine anyone desiring to be willingly. He makes a game of all the things I had no control over growing up. He’s a fetish tourist; a dilettante. He takes nothing and no one seriously.
I, on the other hand, refuse to treat him lightly, especially now that he may be seriously ill. My conscience won’t let me.
Mystery of Iniquity 
I’m at a loss for words reading through this sad turn of events for you Moi. 😦
Thanks Zoe. I suppose it’s a form of Karma. I’ve resigned myself to it.